Major Causes of Unhappiness

What are the major causes of unhappiness?  Maybe this is a very general question to be asking since happiness can mean many different things to different people. Although there can be several different meanings to happiness, I wanted to share a few key points that you should be aware of.

Not being able to accept problems as they come your way….

Problems are a part of everyday life, however many people have a hard time accepting problems and start to run away from them. The last thing you want to do is procrastinate and think that leaving a problem that needs attention will solve an issue. In the past I thought that if one major problem were to be solved then life would become easy. We have a natural habit of wanting ease & comfort in life because we don’t want to go through the pain of feeling uncomfortable. The truth is that life consists of a series of problems, and the more we start to accept this, the happier we will feel. The reason many people feel depressed is because they fail to accept reality, therefore they think that they deserve a life that is problems free.

I suggest that you read The Reason You Feel Dissatisfied With Your Life to learn more about why you feel dissatisfied.

Patience is required to solve any problem

Have you ever had a tangled cable that has been sitting by your desk for a few weeks and as you try to hurry and untangle the cable cord it becomes tangled even more? We know that there is a problem but we fail to focus fully and take the time to solve the problem. When you don’t take the time to solve problems that need your attention right away, they start building up and you will see yourself getting really stressed out.  When you have patience, any problem can be solved.

Being dependent on others…

Many of us have a hard time being independent so we start depending on others for our happiness.  Personal relationships fail because we start getting dependent on others for our happiness and well-being since we feel insecure about ourselves. We constantly feel like we don’t have the ability to find our own happiness. The people that have the self-confidence to be responsible for their own happiness are the ones that are the most successful in all areas of their life. They don’t seek validation from others and they are totally clear about what their goals and values are.

To find out more about how you can gain more self-confidence, I suggest that you read The Reason You Have No Confidence!

Most of your Pain is coming from judging the past….

Many of us feel unhappy and feel resistance emotionally and mentally because we are too caught up in our egoic mind (author Eckhart Tolle mentions this in The Power of Now). Our mind is also caught up with a lot of chatter constantly judging people or events that have occurred in the past. Our past soon becomes our identity and we fail to be present in our everyday lives. You will notice that when you talk to many people, they will sometimes not fully be engaged in a conversation because their mind is somewhere else. Often times the internal chatter that goes on inside our minds are from judging something that occurred in the past.